A Thirty-Something Flying Blind

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July 2015

Just Make a Wish 3

Last post for this birthday, I swear.

Starting in 2011, I made a personal music mix for my birthday called Just Make a Wish. It was a fun mix with no real theme beyond making a mix for my own birthday rather than a friend’s birthday (for a change).

I made a new mix in 2012, titled–wait for it–Just Make a Wish 2.

In 2013 and 2014, I was busy at birthday time to sit down and make a mix. In 2013, I was about to move to Australia, and in 2014, I was busy with a work trip. This year, I decided to go back and make a new mix called Just Make a Wish 3.

This 2015 mix is different from its predecessors. I decided on a basic scheme:  1 song to represent each year of my life, starting in 1985. I picked songs that a) I did/do listen to and b) were mostly upbeat and fun (you know, keeping it festive for the birthday and all). The result is that this mix sticks to mainstream pop and rock music.

This mix took a while to make. There was some ambiguity on when an album was released versus when the single was released (I’m looking at you 1988), and some years were harder to pick just one song above all others (the 1990’s in particular).

Anyways, I hope you enjoy.

Youtube Playlist (for all music videos, hopefully not region blocked)

Spotify Playlist


Thoughts on 30

As the intro post stated, people have varied reactions on age milestones. Age is an artificial number of course, but age milestones hold strong cultural (and typically personal) significance. We are all meant to go through life checking off certain boxes along the way.

At 30, you’re supposed to have your shit together. I’m from the American South, which has some basic expectations for women by 30. Settle down. Get married. Have kids. Or, at a bare minimum among some in my generation, complete “30 in 30.” I have done none of these things.

Still, I have no qualms about turning 30. I did a lot in my 20’s, taking a rather unique path (gross understatement). When I was 17, I quipped to my parents that my psychology PhD ambitions meant that I would have no life until I was 30. But I did have a life. I went to great universities and met amazing people over the years. I lived abroad for the past six years in two different countries (The Netherlands and Australia). I traveled to 18 different countries in my 20’s, seeing far more of he world than I ever expected at 17. I also just earned my PhD a few months shy of turning 30.

I’m not trying to boast too strongly here. I’m proud of what I’ve done, but I still have plenty of goals and improvements that I need/want to make in my life. But it is good to maintain perspective when you hit an age milestone, especially when your personal accomplishments do not align with the age milestones dictated by cultural norms.

For me, things in my life are good. Bring it on, 30.

Obligatory First Post

Today I turned 30.

Some people shrug off the end of their twenties, while others go into denial. First anniversary of your 29th birthday and all that jazz.

Me? I start a new blog.

I’ve had blogs before–one from undergrad and another from my years in the Netherlands. I’ve had various journals, too. Still, I had one key problem with all these methods–I totally sucked at updating them on a regular basis.

I hold some optimism that this blog might be different, but only time will tell. To help with content, I’m keeping the topics wide open. One post might be a music mix, another a travel anecdote. I might ramble on news, books, politics, psychology, or whatever pops into my head. I’ve always enjoyed writing, yet it was limited strictly to work as I completed my dissertation. Now I hope to regain the hobby of writing for fun that I once had.

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